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Complementarian Marriage Wish List: An Egalitarian’s Perspective, Part 2

Part 2, continued from last week. We’re moving on to the wife’s wish list now. How to show love to the wife: 1. Values my opinion. Note that in “How to Show Respect to a Husband”, the wife is asked to value her husband’s decisions; here, the husband is merely asked to value his wife’s opinions. The difference may seem subtle, but it’s very telling as to where the balance of power lies: with the husband. The wife is expected to  ...

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Lifestyle

Complementarian Marriage Wish List: An Egalitarian’s Perspective, Part 1

You’ll recall that awhile ago I did a series of posts on the book Love and Respect. In it I shared a list compiled by members from one of my former small groups about suggested ways wives could respect their husbands and ways husbands could love their wives. (And you already know what I think about the love women/respect men dichotomy!) As I wrote, I had a hard time resisting the temptation to critique items on those lists. I decided to save that for its own post. My intention with  ...

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Faith & Spirituality

Love & Respect vs. Logic & Reality, Part 3

In my previous post I discussed the alleged rights and privileges of husbands as per the claims of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs in Love and Respect. I have comparatively much less to say about what wives should expect out of the deal. Eggerichs admits that his book is more about respect than about love, and therefore men stand to gain more from it than women (because men are consistently underrepresented in matrimonial discourse, according to Eggerichs). That said, I do want to give some  ...

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Faith & Spirituality

Love & Respect vs. Logic & Reality, Part 2

I have said that in my opinion, Emerson Eggerichs, author of Love and Respect, fails to provide us with a satisfactory definition for either love or respect, and also fails to demonstrate any sort of meaningful relationship or distinction between the two. Hence, his assertion that love is exclusively the need of wives and respect is exclusively the need of husbands is baseless. If you ask me, these discrepancies are more than enough to disqualify his teaching as incoherent and  ...

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